Life Partner

The last week has been eventful. It's been a tough time dealing with the Methodist Church's stand on a certain subject..

To summarize: Law Verus Grace. Using a less emotive analogy: It is against the law to "lie", but does that mean we avoid all "liars", condemn all "liars", decline to fellowship with all "liars", refuse to allow all "liars" to take communion with us? I disagree. I have friends who are compulsive "liars", and I can't see myself cutting myself off from them. As a friend, I have a duty to tell them that it's against the law to "lie", what they wish to do with this reminder, that's between them and God.

My understanding of Romans is that ALL have fallen short of the glory of God, whether you're a "liar", someone who cheats on taxes or a murderer. Who am I to judge which is the bigger or lesser sin? I'm equally filthy and impure. As they say, " the pot calling the kettle black".

While asking a Pastor Friend of mine (PEW) what he thought, all he did was say it was wise for me to reflect on the arguments of law and grace with respect to "lying". He artfully dodged the bullet and avoided giving his two cents worth.. Thanks ah Edwin, if you're reading this. :-P

While seeking wiser counsel about the "lying", (namely Pastor Noel Goh and Pastor Malcolm Tan from Barker Road Methodist Church), these two wise men prayed for me, and for some strange reason, they both opened the prayer with asking for Isabel to find her life partner. To which I raised an eyebrow, but didn't pursue the topic with them as I felt the "lying" topic was more important and urgent.

After all, Isabel made a decision that after the 6th of April 2008, she would not be open to starting a family. Biologically, I didn't feel it was viable for me to have children after I turned 32. To be honest, I couldn't see many men around my age wanting to just be married but not raising children. I have seen many a thirty-something year old bachelor's biological clock ticking in church. It's quite hilarious!

Hence my conclusion: singlehood is a likely path for me .

Am I fussy? I think not. When you're a woman who's walked paths journeying through certain mountains and deserts like me, the qualities of a life partner are clear. It's not about abilities, age, height, weight, educational qualifications, bank account, status, job, address, schools, background, sense of humour, dress sense, accent, race, nationality. It's about being with someone who shares the same values as you do and loves you sincerely for who you are. That's all I ask.